Did you know that 30% of marriages end in divorce by the couples 20th anniversary? 1 in 5 newly-weds divorce after only 5 years of marriage and 50% of ALL marriages in America end in divorce. The top reasons for divorce are poor communication, finances, abuse, no longer being physically attracted to each other and infidelity. Studies have shown that you're more likely to get a divorce if you smoke, hang out with other people who have been divorced, have a daughter instead of a son, met in a bar or have money problems. So that's pretty much all of us in some way or another isn't it? Who knew two little words, “I do...” could have such a negative impact on our society.
So, unless you don't smoke and don't go out and have fun in bars, only give birth to boys, have no financial issues and have no divorced friends your marriage has a chance of survival. Let's not beat around the bush, the statistics aren't great and if you're in a position where you feel marriage might be on the cards soon, by reading these statistics, it's probably not going to be any more. Finding the perfect partner is a hard enough job as it is without the added pressure of worrying whether a successful marriage is in your future. In fact, just by worrying about it probably suggests that it's not going to be as smooth sailing as you might have hoped. We've all been there, dreaming of what it might be like one day to come home to your perfect little country cottage to your perfect little family. A husband or wife that adores you (and who doesn't smoke and doesn't go to bars, apparently) – I know I have. Many a time. Every new guy I met I envisioned this strange, unrealistic fantasy but after too many awful dates, painful break-ups, undignified Facebook statuses, I pretty much gave up on the idea of ever being happy with a partner, let alone being married to them where there's a 99% possibility I'll end up divorced after 5 years anyway.
It got me thinking, why are we all so negative about this? What makes us so apprehensive and worried about the future and marriage to another person? Then I got it. So you know what I did? I made a commitment. To myself. If you're not happy with yourself, how can you expect anyone else to be happy with you either? If you don't love yourself, nobody else will love you to their full potential either! It was like an epiphany so from the comfort of my own house, I looked in the mirror and said, “I do” and vowed from that day forward to love myself and make myself a better person. To be there for myself in sickness and in health. To honor and protect myself and be faithful to myself for as long as I shall live. If you love yourself and do what makes you happy, it will show and one day someone else will come along who made their own vows to themselves too and providing you don't smoke, have a daughter and have no divorced friends, you'll be able to truly understand the meaning of marriage.
I Me, Take Me, To Be My Lawfully Wedded Wife....
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