Having a girlfriend is priceless- you cannot buy friendship.

I have realized something in recent days; I have no girlfriends. Sure- I have friends on social media and a ton of acquaintances, but I can honestly say I do not have a friend.  I know people that I care about and that lives over a 1000 miles away- we text from time to time, but can go weeks sometimes even months without saying a word.

When I mean girlfriend- I mean a person- that lives close by- someone I can share girl stuff with, laugh, cry, dump all my shit on and who will always be in my corner even when I am wrong and share a bottle of wine with- or two.  

I left home at 19 and never looked back. I married two military men; moved a lot- overseas and back a couple of times. I have met people and stayed contacted with some. Now 20 years, two divorces and two grown children later- I wish I had a girlfriend. I am in a long-term committed relationship, but that is not the same.

Honestly- I do not know if I would know how to have a girlfriend/girlfriend relationship. In the past- I thought I had such a relationship and share my girl shit and talked and cried and laughed- but in the end was only judged and rejected because that “friend” didn’t agree with my ideas- partner and life situation. That kind of rejection is very painful. I know now- I am had better off- but at the time saying, it was a slap in the face is an understatement.

I admire those who have lifelong friends- that have seen them through the best of times and through the worst of times. If you are a woman and lucky enough to have a girlfriend (BFF) - hold on to that. Because finding someone that “gets you”, is quick to spout out “that bitch”, and has your back- is truly hard to find.

Having a girlfriend is priceless- you cannot buy friendship.